December 08, 2022 3 min read
On Dec 4th 2021, I became a father for the first time, and an “older parent” at that, after quite a long, rambling journey. Little did I know my journey had only just begun.
I’ve come to discover a new moon blacking out the sun is a fitting metaphor for a first-time parent. In a flash, everything I previously held to be true had changed. Suddenly I was standing in a wholly different light, and I don't recall ever actually moving.
In certain African cultures, when you become a new parent, you’re given a new name in the village and from there on out are known as Papa or Mama + your baby’s first name.
Integrating the conflicting responsibilities of these two identities has become my biggest challenge to date and my greatest opportunity thus far. On the Solid Threads front, it's invoking a lot of foundational changes I'm excited to share, in the hopes of sending this small business I birthed now over 20 years ago off to college so to speak.
On the personal front, my head has been spinning really. It's been a wonderful whirlwind, marked by serious pain, excessive joy, and everything in between, almost on a daily basis.
I guess I'm being distilled somehow, into my base form, through some invisible emotional meat grinder. I can only hope the conconction remaining at the end somehow ages to perfection... that's where prior lessons learned are helping through this fruitful adversity.
The new awareness provided by the teachings of Julia Indichova changed our entire perspective on fertility and opened up the space for Nova to come through. So much so, our story is featured on the front page of her site.
I gained a lot from this raw heartfelt take on family life and parenthood offered by Kier, a therapist and family and relationship vlogger who makes videos with his wife Noémie and 2-year-old daughter Emmy.
This book helped paint a clearer picture of the type of masculinity I could aspire towards. It deals in a lot of archetypes that seem to cut deeper into our pysche to reveal understanding that sticks to the bones.
Eye opening data from Sahil Bloom on how and who we spend time with throughout our lives. There are some telling stats to help appreciate our family time, in spite of how overwhelming it can sometimes be.
I felt a fitting end to this Girl Dad infused family edition was to bring it back to the beginning, with an in depth dive into the menstrual cycle, something many of us men simply try to avoid.
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